Raising Your Spirited Child came up as a recommendation on our Amazon page. Dylan alerted me to it & after just reading the whole title, a guide for parents whose child is more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent and energetic, the book was immediately put on hold at the library. I started reading it this weekend & I'm only a few chapters in, but I can already tell that this book is going to change my life for the better.
I feel that this author actually does understand my child. My Sadie girl that was roaring from those very first days in the hospital. The one that has been labeled "busy" & "active" from early on. The one that takes literally forever to get dressed or get the the car. The one that quit napping early. The one that bounces & sings through her life. The one that is full of energy & creativity & imagination. The one that is so fun to be around, but sometimes just too intense.
From the little that I've read already, I am feeling so much better as a parent. I'm not feeling that my parenting style has failed her. To be honest I've felt quite often that I have created this personality in her. Not so. She was born this way. It's how she's wired. She feels things in a big way. It's not my fault & it's not her fault. And it's not a bad thing. It's just takes more energy & more patience to parent her.
With Sadie the good times are incredible. Just seriously the best. I look at her & think she is the most amazing creation in the world. Then in a split second it can change & I'm wondering how she can set me off & make me feel so crazy.
Claire is already showing signs of being a spirited one as well. Where Sadie seems to be more perceptive, Claire seems to be more persistent & sensitive. And Dylan & I have been feeling that we were little spirited ones for our parents as well. :)
Anyway, there are lots of you out there that I know struggle with the same sort of intensity with your children. I though this book could help you as well.