Yes. I'm an introvert. This isn't news to me. I've been aware of this for quite some time. Recently I've become very tuned into the characteristics of introverts & the way that I behave when I don't get what I need as an introverted person.
The reason for my self examination as of late, is that I've come to see that my 2 year old daughter Claire is also an introvert. I can see that she is already being misunderstood because of her tendencies & as her mother (understanding completely what it feels like) I feel very protective of her & I want to make sure that I care for her properly in a world that will tell her there's something wrong with her.
Introverts are not shy. They simply process everything internally. Studies have shown that their brains actually operate differently than extroverts. Extroverts think things out by talking. Introverts gain energy from being alone. Extroverts gain energy from being with people. I enjoy social get togethers, but I can only take so much. After a certain amount of time, I'm done. It drains me & in order to get my energy back, I need some time alone. When we've scheduled too much time with friends & family and I haven't allowed for down time, I get super grouchy. When I haven't had time to recharge, I don't really want to be touched & I don't want my kids climbing all over me. Sometimes I feel like a mean, horrible person, but I can't help it. I need just a little bit of time to myself & I feel much more sane, much more energized & I'm ready to love & care for my family again.
I'm learning that being aware & attending to this aspect of my personality is really important. I don't have to be at every party or social outing. Even with family members, I don't have to go on every shopping trip or every vacation. Sometimes they just make me feel crazy & it has nothing to do with the company.
Likewise, I'm learning to understand extroverts better as well. They're not repeating themselves a million times just to annoy me. They're actually thinking out loud.
With Claire, I notice that some get upset that she doesn't want to give hugs or whenever an adult talks to her she withdraws a bit & hides behind my leg or climbs on my lap & puts her face in my shoulder. I feel strongly about not forcing her to do anything she doesn't want to. I'm sure that in the right situation & when pressure isn't placed on her, she'd more than happily engage in this type of socializing.
I remember reading about introvert & extrovert children in the book
Raising Your Spirited Child, which I really need to own. Why do I not own that book? I think that scheduling either social time or alone time for your child on a daily basis is just as important as getting them fed & to bed on time. Also, I found
these online articles interesting. Anyway, I love my family & I love my job as a mother & I want to do all I can to make sure our lives run smoothly & every person & personality trait is being cared for.
This post feels like it's all over the place. But I've been thinking so very much about this lately & I want to share & connect with any of you out there that go through the same things. I find that sewing really helps me to stay balanced in my life. I always thought that it was the creative process or working with my hands that was therapeutic. Perhaps it's the time that it allows me to be alone with my thoughts. Maybe it's a bit of both.
Any thoughts on this subject?